Understanding True Love

Understanding True Love

My heart really hurts to read and see so many people breakup and move on, because the love between both people was not strong enough. I guess their lack of understanding of true love led them to this situation.
For me, true love is all about the willingness to accept another for who and what he/she is, even if they are totally different from you. And yes, accept them willingly and happily without really trying to change them. If need be, you could try to change yourself or accept the change and adjust.

“True love is born from understanding.” ~ The Buddha

Some traits that are usually present when there is love between two people are as under:
1- When you are ready to sacrifice your needs
True love is about being ready to sacrifice your own requirements and desires for the one you love, and put them before you. You are ready to make small sacrifices for one another, because you love them so dearly.
2- When you are ready for commitments
True love is the keenness to commit, forgive and be forgiven, to engage in and maintain understanding within the relationship, and the willingness to enter into a long-term commitment.
3- When you are ready to accept one another
Most importantly, I feel true love is the readiness to accept the shortcomings in your partner without any conditions. It is also the willingness to reveal your own imperfections without the fear that you will be evaluated or rejected.
4- When you are able to open up yourself & share things
When you are willing to be vulnerable where love is concerned, you are opening yourself up to another person. This means that you are disclosing things about yourself that you don’t know will be taken up well.
It is about sharing everything of your past, present, future dreams and hopes, good and bad times, desires and needs, material possessions, emotions, and just about every smallest of your life with your partner.
5- When you are content and secure
Where there is true love, you know and feel loved. You know that the love is true because you feel content that where you are, is a safe and secure place.
6- When you are compassionate towards one another
True love is also about being compassionate towards your partner, to be able to heal old wounds, and to ease their pain and suffering. You help them overcome their fear and hurt.
It sure is that feeling you get in your heart when you see your loved one in front of you, which makes an instant connection when there is love among two people.
7- When you are patient and gentle
When there is real love, you will be patient with the one you love, because you love him or her. And such patience is visible in your actions.
True love is also gentle as its character is to care and cherish one another. One of the most loving actions is a gentle touch that conveys a great deal. Or even things like correcting the one you love in a gentle manner – shows that you care.
8- When there is sheer joy
There is absolute joy in the smallest of things like when you wake up next to your partner, or even during tough times, when you should be grateful that you have your partner beside you.
Understanding true love is all about making the love between two people shine right through. Your partner should be able to make you laugh when you want to cry, and they should be able to hold you even when you make them mad! (I know this is really tough!)
True love listens; it always waits, and is patient, kind, caring, joyous, and free!

“True love begins when nothing is looked for in return.” – Antoine De Saint-Exupery

I know that it’s tough to understand true love, and along with love comes the hurt and pain too. I wanted to continue writing about why does love hurt in a relationship, but as this post is already long enough, I shall be writing about it next week. So, look out for next Friday’s post on why love hurts!
So, though understanding true love between two people is tough, but it’s not impossible. And once people learn about it they cherish it lifelong, as true love is the greatest gifts in the world.
Over to you –
Have you been in love? If so, what was your experience like? Did you have trouble in understanding true love? Do you feel that the love between two people is incomplete without a proper understanding of true love? Share your thoughts in the comments below.